Wedding Traditions and Options - Deciding What's Important

Dear Reader,

These days when planning a wedding it can be overwhelming to make all the decisions necessary in planning a big event.  Throw in the biggest day of your life, managing relatives, trying to make a good impression on new relatives, clients, friends, etc. being in the spotlight, managing vendors and changing everything in your life with a new one it is no doubt a huge undertaking!  Ad in all the little things that people throw in that you have to do. For example you might hear this...

Are you tossing the bouquet?  Throwing a garder? Giving away a thank you memento? Wearing blue? Eating dinner? It literally goes on and on.

So what to do...

Unless you are someone who greatly enjoys the whole tradition of getting married in America and have an unlimited budget it is a good idea to sit down and talk with your fiance and anyone helping plan and pay for the wedding and list what is important.

Start first with the bigger items and ask yourselves (If this did not happen at my wedding would I miss it?)  For example eating a meal, it is nice but would you enjoy the day any less if you did not?
Of course price has a lot to do with it but also time, planning and management of the whole process.
To some a honeymoon right away is the most important part of the whole wedding, their focus should be on the honeymoon an a simple wedding.

What really bogs you down will be all the little things that people will ask if your doing; throwing a bouquet, having a receiving line, giving a gift to your guests to your attendants, it goes on and on. So if you are not comfortable tossing a guarder and bouquet my suggestion is don't do it.

While you are sitting down write down what's important to you and then make a plan for your day of what you want to have happen and don't leave it to chance.  If you have no idea of what goes on with a wedding day most bookstores or the Internet have wedding planners to help guide you.  Rank the items one to ten with importance. Then write the most important ones into your big day.

Let me know if this helps!

Best,

Diane Gramze
Wedding Coach, Florist and Friend